Don't Neglect Your First Family

DON'T NEGLECT YOUR FIRST FAMILY:

Beloved brethren, allow me to speak on a very sensitive subject. 

I am ready to be stoned, but please, stone me softly. 

Divorce or separation brings many changes, but one thing should never change: your responsibility to your first family. 

It is unfortunately true that many men, after ending a marriage, neglect their former spouse and, most importantly, their children from that union.

Separation or divorce does not act as a magic wand that absolves you of your duties as a father and co-parent. 

Your commitment to their well-being: emotionally, financially, and socially, is permanent. 

Your children did not choose the separation, and they deserve your consistent, unwavering support.

Let us learn a lessons from Moses:

In Numbers 12:1 (KJV), we read:

“And Miriam and Aaron spake against Moses because of the Ethiopian woman whom he had married: for he had married an Ethiopian woman.”

Many people assume this "Ethiopian woman" was a second wife.

But other historical records suggest she was actually Moses' first wife, whom he had married and had children with before he fled from Egypt at age 40. 

Remember Moses was brought up as a Prince. 

It is practically extremely hard for him not have married at the age of 40.

When he fled from Egypt, he met Zipporah in Midian and married her.

When Moses returned to lead his people, at age 80, he was seemingly re-uniting with his first family. The family of the Ethiopian wife.

Miriam and Aaron were not happy because they preferred Moses to ignore, reject and abandon his first family. 

Sounds familiar????

God was not happy with Miriam and Aaron and he punished them.

God does not accept any excuse as a reason to neglect our first family.

The message is clear: Our responsibility to our first family is never cancelled just because we enter a second marriage or relationship. 

Our faith, our salvation, and our current commitments must not become excuses to abandon our first families.

Be responsible: Be supportive.

Whatever happened, happened but your responsibility as father remains. 

Boniface Amani Gichina (CPM)

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