Suspicious Minds In Relationships.

"SUSPICIOUS MINDS" IN A RELATIONSHIP:

Beloved brethren, even though I am a pastor, permit me to refer to a song, "Suspicious Minds," by the late Rock n Roll superstar Elvis Presley.

In that song, Elvis describes the troubles he was going through because his lover had Suspicious Minds.

Suspicion is not entirely evil but it can be very toxic. It is dangerous to relationships in families, in businesses, in workplaces, etc.

Suspicion is like weed in a beautiful flower garden. 

Relationships are built on the bedrock of trust.

I once had a boss who had recruited many groups of spies around himself.

1. Spies to spy his seniors. 

2. Spies to spy his juniors 

3. Spies to spy his enemies 

4. Spies to spy his friends 

5. Spies to spy his other Spies

The effect of this spying spree created a very toxic working environment. 

Having an ordinary conversation with a colleague was always a risk. 

You never knew who is a spy and who is not: who is spying you and who is not.

Secret recording of private conversations was a common practice because of the "Suspicious Minds" syndrome.

No human being who should be trusted 100%: 

but carrying Suspicious Minds in a relationship is a serious bondage. 

Boniface Amani Gichina (CPM)

In A Relationship, Look Ahead, Not Behind.

In Relationships, Look Ahead, Not Behind.

Today, I desire to try and unpack the wise saying, that states,

“To build a good relationship, focus on improving the future, not dissecting the past."

As we navigate the complexities of relationships, whether with a spouse, family member, friend, or colleague, it can be tempting to dwell on the past and dissect every misstep or shortcoming.

 

However, the wise saying reminds us that the key to building good relationships is to focus on improving the future, not getting caught up in the mistakes of the past.

The Scriptures support this approach too. Take Philippians 3:13, as an example;

"Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before.".

In this verse, Apostle Paul encourages us to let go of the past and press forward towards the future. 

Rather than dwell on our failures or shortcomings, we should set our sights on the goals and opportunities that lie ahead. 

This mind-set allows us to move forward with a renewed sense of purpose and determination.

Another scriptural example is Ephesians 4:32,

"And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you."

This scripture reminds us that the foundation of healthy relationships is rooted in kindness, compassion, and forgiveness. 

When we focus on the future and choose to extend grace to one another, we create an environment where growth and healing can thrive.

By letting go of the past and reaching forward to the future, we can cultivate meaningful, strong relationships that are built on a foundation of kindness, forgiveness, and a shared vision for a better tomorrow.

It’s indeed true:

"To build a good relationship, focus on improving the future, not dissecting the past," 

Boniface Amani Gichina (CPM)

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