Don't Neglect Your First Family

DON'T NEGLECT YOUR FIRST FAMILY:

Beloved brethren, allow me to speak on a very sensitive subject. 

I am ready to be stoned, but please, stone me softly. 

Divorce or separation brings many changes, but one thing should never change: your responsibility to your first family. 

It is unfortunately true that many men, after ending a marriage, neglect their former spouse and, most importantly, their children from that union.

Separation or divorce does not act as a magic wand that absolves you of your duties as a father and co-parent. 

Your commitment to their well-being: emotionally, financially, and socially, is permanent. 

Your children did not choose the separation, and they deserve your consistent, unwavering support.

Let us learn a lessons from Moses:

In Numbers 12:1 (KJV), we read:

“And Miriam and Aaron spake against Moses because of the Ethiopian woman whom he had married: for he had married an Ethiopian woman.”

Many people assume this "Ethiopian woman" was a second wife.

But other historical records suggest she was actually Moses' first wife, whom he had married and had children with before he fled from Egypt at age 40. 

Remember Moses was brought up as a Prince. 

It is practically extremely hard for him not have married at the age of 40.

When he fled from Egypt, he met Zipporah in Midian and married her.

When Moses returned to lead his people, at age 80, he was seemingly re-uniting with his first family. The family of the Ethiopian wife.

Miriam and Aaron were not happy because they preferred Moses to ignore, reject and abandon his first family. 

Sounds familiar????

God was not happy with Miriam and Aaron and he punished them.

God does not accept any excuse as a reason to neglect our first family.

The message is clear: Our responsibility to our first family is never cancelled just because we enter a second marriage or relationship. 

Our faith, our salvation, and our current commitments must not become excuses to abandon our first families.

Be responsible: Be supportive.

Whatever happened, happened but your responsibility as father remains. 

Boniface Amani Gichina (CPM)

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Disorder Breed Sufferation

DISORDER BREEDS SUFFERATION:

Beloved brethren, "Sufferation" is not a proper English word. 

Sufferation is a word crafted by Jamaican to express prolonged suffering, or prolonged hardship. 

It is a word to describe oppression or mistreatment by life itself or a broken system. 

My focus today is how, disorder can bring suffering or pain to an individual, a family, a business or an organisation. 

Anytime your see disorder, prepare for a prolonged period of suffering: prepare for Sufferation. 

Examples:

1. Disorder in your money management, will breed financial Sufferation. 

Financial Sufferation will come in forms of debts, unpaid bills, chronic emptiness and lost opportunities for financial growth and stability.

2. Disorder in your family or marriage, will automatically breed misunderstandings, mistrust and pain. 

3. Disorder in your business, will cause loses, failures and stagnation.

God wants us to live orderly lives. He hates disorder. 

1 Corinthians 14:40 KJV, says:

"Let all things be done decently and in order"

Encourage yourself to start living an orderly life.

You will be surprised by the kind of blessings and progress that will start flowing in your life. 

Say bye bye to disorder: it is your firm farewell to Sufferation. 

Boniface Amani Gichina (CPM)

Writing is A Risky Venture.

WRITING IS A RISKY VENTURE:

Beloved brethren, writing is not just pen and paper, fingers and keyboard affair. 

For those of us who commit our inner thoughts to pages and posts, we know the truth: .....Writing is a Risky Venture.

Every time we share a piece of ourselves: an idea, a story, a message, we launch a ship onto a vast and unpredictable sea.

Communication is always a risky game.

Though we write with good intentions. Our intentions may not be viewed favourable by every reader. 

I personally write to:

•Share light

•Spread love

•Demonstrate respect

•Offer encouragement

But writing has unavoidable risks: different readers understand our writing differently.

Before I ever publish a post, a thousand questions run through my mind:

 * Is it necessary?

 * Is it helpful?

 * Is it encouraging?

 * Is it decent?

And from experience, it is almost impossible to score 100% on all these questions.

So why do I keep writing?

 

Because the urge to connect, to serve, and to share is stronger than the fear of misinterpretation.

The risk of misinterpretation is always there in every post.

I write not for the guarantee of safety, but for the potential of impact.

I write in faith, trusting that if my heart is right, the message will find the readers who need it most.

Ecclesiastes 11:1 says:

"Cast thy bread upon the waters:

for thou shalt find it after many days."

I cast my words (my 'bread') onto the unpredictable waters of the public, not knowing where they will land or what good they will do: but trusting that in time, the purpose for which they were sent will be fulfilled.

I plough in hope, and sow in faith - (1Cor.9:10)

Boniface Amani Gichina (CPM)

INSTRUCTIONS

NEVER GET TIRED OF INSTRUCTIONS. 

Beloved brethren, It is easy to get tired of instruction: also known as "instruction fatigue".

Whether it is a new recipe, an equipment to assemble, or guidance from a mentor, sometimes we just want to skip instructions and move ahead. 

We might think we know better, or that the steps are too tedious.

But instructions are a gift.

Instructions saves us from mistakes, wasted time, and unnecessary pain.

Proverbs 15:32 KJV, says: 

"He that refuseth instruction despiseth his own soul: 

but he that heareth reproof getteth understanding"

Let us stay humble, keep our ears open, and never get tired of instructions.

Boniface Amani Gichina (CPM)

You Can't Cage the Wind.

YOU CAN'T CAGE THE WIND:

Beloved brethren, it is important to know this truth: "You Can't Cage the Wind."

Sometimes we spend so much of our energy, time, and emotion trying to hold onto things that are simply not meant to stay. 

•It might be a relationship that has run its natural course, 

•A job that no longer serves your growth, 

•A past that should remain in the past, or 

•A dream that is no longer relevant.

We hold our fists tighter, determined to control the flow, only to find our hands empty and our hearts exhausted.

Holding onto what you are meant to release is like trying to Cage the Wind.

Don't waste your precious resources fighting a battle that was never meant to be won.

Don't waste your emotions try to hold things that were never meant to stay.

Let it go, not because you don't value it, but because you value your own peace.

When you release what is not meant to stay, you make room for something newer and better.

Choose peace.

Choose surrender. 

Choose to let the wind flow.

Nothing is really permanent including life itself.

Boniface Amani Gichina (CPM)

Covenant Day of Favour

COVENANT DAY OF FAVOUR:

Let us gather in God's Presence at Winners Chapel International Kitengela.

The serenity of Kajiado County is unbeatable, offering a perfect atmosphere for fellowship, reflection and spiritual refreshment.

 * First Service: 8:30am

 * Second Service: 10:30am

Karibu Nyote.

Accept Changes With Grace

ACCEPT CHANGES WITH GRACE:

Beloved brethren, life is full of seasons, just like we see here in Kenya. 

There are times of dryness, when the sun scorches, the dust rises, and patience is tested. 

Then comes the rainy season: the land blossoms, rivers flow, and everything comes alive again.

In the same way, our lives go through different seasons. 

Some moments may be tough, others refreshing and full of growth. 

Change is not always easy: 

but it is part of God’s design for our growth and renewal.

When we embrace change with grace, we find strength we didn’t know we had. 

We find new ways of seeing life and locate fresh opportunities for our progress. 

Some seasons may come with some pain, but that pain is not meant to last, just like birth-pains don't last.

Every season has its purpose.

Ecclesiastes 3:1 (KJV).

“To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.”

Boniface Amani Gichina (CPM)