Monday, December 20, 2010

Principles For A fulfilling Marriage

When you are in courtship, before you finally appear before the altar on your wedding day, I am sure you would have been under so many counselors telling you the dos and don't s of marriage. But after leaving the altar, you are faced with the reality in marriage. The good news is that your marriage will be successful, fulfilling and fruitful in all areas, if you will take heed to the instructions below.


The Word of God


God formed your union before it became a reality by His Word! Not just by prayer, but by His Word! That is why the only thing that can uphold your marriage is God's Word. The Bible says: ... and upholding all things by the word of his power (Heb 1:3). Some people believe that laying on of the hand of a man of God and prayer are what make a successful marriage. There is nothing wrong with that, but it has to be done in accordance with His Word! If you will not pay attention to the Word of God and allow the Word of God that has been gathered by His breath to uphold your marriage, there is no prayer anybody can pray for you that will give you the result you desire.


There is no hand laid or anything anybody can do for you that can bring about your desire for a fulfilling marriage. It is my prayer that after reading this article and you apply the Word of God, your marriage, family and life will become what God has destined it to be in the name of Jesus Christ. When you allow God's Word to be in operation in your marriage, there may be some adjustments which you need to make.


Although you might have been used to a particular way of life, you need to allow these changes if you are looking at the best for your marriage. Like the clay in the hand of the porter, the clay must subject itself to the formation of the potter, if that clay must become a centre of attraction tomorrow.


God wants to turn your marriage to a centre of attraction. God wants to turn your family to a centre of attraction. Before that will happen, you must be ready to subject yourself to the formation of the Almighty God by His Word. You must be ready to subject yourself to the formation of the one that initiated marriage Himself.


Acquire Knowledge


The major reason for crises in marriages, today, is because husband and wife do not fully understand their God-given responsibilities in a marriage set up. A person cannot do that which he does not know. If a person does not know his duties in a marriage set up, he cannot fulfill his obligations. The Word of God says: Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered (1 Peter 3:7).


The main emphasis here is the phrase, "Dwell with them according to knowledge." The word "dwell" is translated from the Greek word, "Sunoikeo", which is used to denote domestic association. This association is to be done according to knowledge. For any marriage to experience any degree of success, knowledge of the nature and duties of every member of the family are inevitable. The Oxford Dictionary defines knowledge as awareness or familiarity gained by experience of a person. Dictionary.com defines it as, "The state or fact of knowing; familiarity, awareness, or understanding gained through experience or study; specific information about something."


When the Bible, therefore, enjoins us to dwell according to knowledge, it means there are certain facts that one must lay hold on in order to be fulfilled in marriage. There will be crises when we have little or no knowledge of our duties in fulfilling God's ultimate purpose for our marriage. The Bible says: My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge... (Hosea 4:6).


To enjoy family success, therefore, the place of knowledge cannot be over-emphasized. The Word of God enumerated the benefits of knowledge; it says: By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures (Proverbs 24:3-4 NIV). If your marriage must be filled with rare and beautiful treasures of peace, love, joy, satisfaction, sunshine, fulfillment, etc, then knowledge is the key. It takes knowledge to be fulfilled in marriage. Read the Word of God and anointed books by proven authors with fulfilling testimonies in their marriages.


Do You Want To Be Saved and Start A New Life Afresh
For you to know your spouse, first and foremost, you need to know God, the One who is knowledgeable about everything. Give your life to Jesus Christ and you shall be saved. Do you want to be born again? Why not say this prayer in faith and you shall be born again! "Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today as a sinner. I believe You died for my sins and rose on the third day. Forgive me my sins. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today".


Congratulations! You are now a child of God!


Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through:


E-mail: bgichina@yahoo.com


Tel. No: 254-733-331081 or 254 - 718 - 975900


For more insight, read these books authored by Pastor Faith Oyedepo which are easily found in most leading Christian bookstores:


1. Marriage Covenant


2. Making Marriage Work


3. Building a Successful Family


4. Success in Marriage (Co-Authored)


Remain Blessed
Pastor BonifaceAmani